miraculous birthing bodies

Women who let their bodies do what they need to do have amazing and sometimes surprising birth experiences. A big tall mamma birthing a few days ago: She moved around the birth room eventually getting herself into what seemed like a counter-intuitive leaning backwards squat. After watching her for about 15 minutes, I said"That looks uncomfortable. Try your hands and knees." She did. The water broke and her baby was out in a few minutes. Imagine my surprise when a beautiful, flexible birthing goddess type mamma a couple of nights later got into that same backwards leaning pose, not once, but repeatedly. She even did a few yoga crab moves (she really was a bit of a birth yogi), pushing upwards and backwards onto her hands from a seated posture with her belly in the air.... Then she squatted and the baby came out....fabulous.... Love it

A sandwich is an opportunity

Pregnancy is about opportunity. A client tells me about her lunch sandwich: A piece of processed turkey with some mayonnaise on some ...er... bread..... A missed opportunity! Then I hear of a sort of salad with some lettuce, olives, croutons, grated cheese and ranch dressing. A missed opportunity! What about that weird dream she had last night? "My brothers are teasing me and I wake up really scared and in tears. That was strange. I don't think about my brothers too much", and she gets up and goes to work without thinking any more about it. And here we have another wonderful missed opportunity.
A pregnant woman cares intensely about her unborn child. It gets all her nourishing juices flowing. If, up until this pregnancy, she hasn't taken the opportunities that life offers to nourish herself, being pregnant is a powerful opportunity. In her journey of self-discovery that is pregnancy she can add interesting new ingredients to her sandwich: What about avocado, sprouts, radish, humus, even a scrambled egg in there between those pieces of crusty, grainy stuff....? What a pleasure. And what could she put in that salad bowl? Cabbage might be good, why not? And jicama, she could give that a try. And how about celery and sweet red pepper, tiny juicy tomatoes, pine nuts, green and red onion, and a little basil, all dressed with olive oil, a squeeze of lemon and some balsamic vinegar? Doesn't that inspire you to go into the kitchen right now and create something tasty?
And what about that dream? Let's not dismiss it. Maybe she can tease out for herself her subconscious message. You don't need a degree in psychology or a year on the couch to ask some simple questions of yourself. Go past the immediate facts of the dream to its meaning in the feelings that it evokes. What is it the feeling of the place in which this is happening? What does that intense feeling when you are being teased remind you of? Does it remind you of another time and place? What would make you think of those feelings now? How does that help you to use this opportunity in your pregnancy for greater self-knowledge and ultimately to be the best mother that you can be? How will talking about these feelings and understanding them help you to deepen your relationship with your spouse and thus work better as a team to parent your child?
Every occasion from the sandwich and the salad to your dream last night, is an opportunity. In pregnancy this is especially true because it is a time of change, and therefore a time when women are open to all kinds of new experiences. Don't miss the opportunity!

the midwifery sisterhood

To be a midwife is to be part of a different world. The life is intense. Pregnancy and birth are so powerful. As a midwife I experience that power often. I go home and shop and cook and talk about school, kids, money, daily ups and downs; but all the time, I have another life, a life of pregnancy and birth in which there is no mundane, it is all significant and powerful. The only people who share that contrast of daily grind interspersed with the immense pressure, responsibility and pleasure of attending births, are my midwife sisters. So, to go out with another midwife for lunch, as I did the other day, is special and wonderful. We ate Thai food. We talked about mundane things. We laughed about menopause, and we hoped that we are aging with wisdom and pleasure.

same old depressing story

At her first appointment E told me about the day that she went into her OB's office at 38 weeks along in her last pregnancy. "I'm uncomfortable", she complained, as women who are in their last few weeks typically complain. But E didn't know the way an obstetrician's mind works..... Complaining is his opportunity to act on your body at his convenience.... BEWARE. Her obstetrician smiled sweetly: "Another sucker", he thought. "I can fit her in on Tuesday afternoon and then I'll able to make the gala dinner that the pharmaceutical company is throwing in the evening". So he said, "Your baby is big enough" (whatever that means), "Why don't we induce labor on Tuesday morning?" "OK" said E, clueless and trusting. So he started with cytotec and went on with pitocin and within a short time there was an alarming dip in the baby's heart rate: "Let's put you on your right side....er....maybe not, let's try your left.....er.....ooops, I guess we'd better cut you RIGHT NOW" and so he did. Thank goodness he acted quickly and saved the baby's life. I suppose she'll have to be cut for all her babies now, "You don't mind that do you?"
The baby was fed bottles in the nursery and never got the breastfeeding thing.
Sometimes I'm angry. Today I was just sad.